Dont Say Goodbye
Just ghost.
By Seth Stevenson|Posted Wednesday, July 3, 2013, at 5:45 AM
Why make leaving harder than it has to be?
One recent evening, I celebrated my birthday in the outdoor courtyard of a bar. As the night wore on, and friends fell by the wayside, each departure occasioned a small ritual. A pal would sidle up to whichever conversational circle I was in; edge closer and closer, so as to make herself increasingly conspicuous; and finally smile, apologetically, when the conversation halted so I could turn to her and say goodbye.
Nothing but good intentions here. To some small extent, I appreciated the politeness of this parting gesture. It was not a major imposition to pause for a moment and thank folks for coming.
But theres a better way. One that saves time and agita, acknowledges clear-eyed realities, and keeps the social machine humming.
Just ghost.
Ghostingaka the Irish goodbye, the French exit, and any number of other vaguely ethnophobic termsrefers to leaving a social gathering without saying your farewells. One moment youre at the bar, or the house party, or the Sunday morning wedding brunch. The next moment youre gone. In the manner of a ghost. Whered he go? your friends might wonder. Butand this is keythey probably wont even notice that youve left.
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Yes, I know. Youre going to tell me its rude to leave without saying goodbye. This moral judgment is implicit in the culturally derogatory nicknames ghosting has been burdened with over the centuries. The English have been calling it French leave since 1751, while the French have been referring to filer à l'anglaise since at least the late 1800s. As with other cross-Channel insultsdepending on your side, a condom is either a French letter or la capote anglaise, syphilis the French disease or la maladie anglaisethe idea is to pin unsavory behavior on your foes.
Here in the U.S... (read the complete article by clicking on the link below)
Ghosting, the Irish goodbye, the French leave: stop saying goodbye at parties. - Slate Magazine
Ano sa tingin nyo? Appropriate ba sa setting natin sa Pilipinas?
Just ghost.
By Seth Stevenson|Posted Wednesday, July 3, 2013, at 5:45 AM
Why make leaving harder than it has to be?
One recent evening, I celebrated my birthday in the outdoor courtyard of a bar. As the night wore on, and friends fell by the wayside, each departure occasioned a small ritual. A pal would sidle up to whichever conversational circle I was in; edge closer and closer, so as to make herself increasingly conspicuous; and finally smile, apologetically, when the conversation halted so I could turn to her and say goodbye.
Nothing but good intentions here. To some small extent, I appreciated the politeness of this parting gesture. It was not a major imposition to pause for a moment and thank folks for coming.
But theres a better way. One that saves time and agita, acknowledges clear-eyed realities, and keeps the social machine humming.
Just ghost.
Ghostingaka the Irish goodbye, the French exit, and any number of other vaguely ethnophobic termsrefers to leaving a social gathering without saying your farewells. One moment youre at the bar, or the house party, or the Sunday morning wedding brunch. The next moment youre gone. In the manner of a ghost. Whered he go? your friends might wonder. Butand this is keythey probably wont even notice that youve left.
Advertisement
Yes, I know. Youre going to tell me its rude to leave without saying goodbye. This moral judgment is implicit in the culturally derogatory nicknames ghosting has been burdened with over the centuries. The English have been calling it French leave since 1751, while the French have been referring to filer à l'anglaise since at least the late 1800s. As with other cross-Channel insultsdepending on your side, a condom is either a French letter or la capote anglaise, syphilis the French disease or la maladie anglaisethe idea is to pin unsavory behavior on your foes.
Here in the U.S... (read the complete article by clicking on the link below)
Ghosting, the Irish goodbye, the French leave: stop saying goodbye at parties. - Slate Magazine
Ano sa tingin nyo? Appropriate ba sa setting natin sa Pilipinas?